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I don't know about you but I remember a few years back saying to myself. My kids have such an entitlement attitude when did this all happen? They have no idea how lucky they are living here in the SCV. I began sounding like every other parent as I shot back at the snotty new teens who had kidnapped my kids in the back seat. "I had to walk to school when I was a kid. I had to walk back, and forth to school 10 miles each way, barefooted, on broken glass, uphill, and that was on a good day! I would thank my parents each day for providing me with an opportunity for a great education! So stop whining about the air not being on high enough as we drive to the mall for crying out loud!

I remember thinking to myself how are my kids ever going to learn the "All American work ethic and that everything in life is not just handed to you in this town as we came to a stop? My thought process was interrupted by "But so and so, has this and so and so has that? Blah, Blah, Blah Where did I go wrong and how am I going to instill these values in my kids?. You know there is a price for those "priceless moments on those T.V. commercials! How are they ever going to experience that? I wish there was a way I could teach them this valuable trait.

Well as luck would have it with the downturn in the Real Estate Market I got my wish! As my income began to drop like my gas gauge on "empty" I began a new career as a result and although this lesson was supposed to be for my girls somehow I got thrown into the mix as well. As our "material" possessions are slowly being peeled away week by week, month by month. I am served up a daily dose of humble pie. Quite frankly I probably needed a slice or two but I'm good, no really that is enough pie big guy. I got the message, can I go back to how things were now, I think they got it now? Lesson learned, so whats up with this mirror?

You may have run into my twin who frequents the local WalMart and the 99 cent store now. If you see him tell him I said Hi , Oh and that middle aged fat guy mowing the front lawn around the short sale sign. You know the guy with a push mower down the street who you thought was the gardener to begin with a few years back. I understand he's on a new health kick just trying to lose some additional weight. The good news is I am not going through this alone folks oops did I say I?, all is not lost however. The good news is I have the good news and that there is hope and there is light at the other end of the tunnel. I know what your thinking, he's delusional or in denial. Survey says.... No! This is one of those teachable moments we get in life we can either squander it in disappointment and despair, or be grateful that we are given an opportunity to grow in faith. Get up, dust ourselves off, and get back into the race. At least in this story my girls will have the benefit of actually experiencing this first hand rather than my slightly exaggerated walk to school story. O.K. Totally exaggerated walk to school story who's counting! Hope they learn something from all of this I certainly have. Stay tuned for the rest of the story...

How are things shaking for you?

May the source be with you.

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speeples commented on Tuesday, Jun 24, 2008 at 19:13 PM

Pablo --

I can relate to almost everything you said. I have 2 kids in their early 20s. One has a well-developed work ethic and the other wants it handed, and right now. I love them both equally and unconditionally. My parents grew up during the Depression and WWII and tried to give us Baby Boomers what they didn't have. They did their best, and it was a pretty good job. As parents, we somehow failed to instill our parents' work ethic in our kids. Or they failed to get it. We could go around on that pitard forever. The result, though, is our kids have little to no clue about the sacrifices parents make. If they do, it's not always with compassion, it's, "Well, that's your job as a parent, you're supposed to make sacrifices." OK, but at a certain point, when those sacrifices are not acknowledged or not believed by our kids, we parents feel taken advantage of. I'm sure our parents felt the same way about us. I will admit I didn't have a clue until well into my 20s; by then my mom had died and it was too late, but from that time until he died a few years ago, my dad and I had a great relationship based on mutual respect, not necessarily what we could give or do for each other. While a lot of this is typical stuff between generations and parents and kids, it's my perception, my reality, that now is the "Age of Entitlement," and when it comes to be our time to be old and in the way, our kids won't be there for us as we've been there for them, as we were there for our parents when they got old. The entitlement is not two-way. This is all a huge issue, way beyond you and me, and I'm sorry to say, I don't see any trend away from it.

jpsthesignal commented on Thursday, Jun 26, 2008 at 16:51 PM

Hey Stephen,

Well said, you made a lot of great points. We have a lot in common my friend. I haven't given up hope just yet, but check back with me a year or two from now! I think some of it also falls on us "Parents" We need to step up to the plate too and explore if maybe we added fuel to the fire in one way or another. I know in today's world there are so many other "messages" influences from school, television, advertisements, etc... that go against what we try to teach our kids at home. Could have something to do with it? You are right it is a huge issue, I guess if not in the near future, maybe we should have a follow-up discussion about this in our Golden years?


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