
Pablo --
I can relate to almost everything you said. I have 2 kids in their early 20s. One has a well-developed work ethic and the other wants it handed, and right now. I love them both equally and unconditionally. My parents grew up during the Depression and WWII and tried to give us Baby Boomers what they didn't have. They did their best, and it was a pretty good job. As parents, we somehow failed to instill our parents' work ethic in our kids. Or they failed to get it. We could go around on that pitard forever. The result, though, is our kids have little to no clue about the sacrifices parents make. If they do, it's not always with compassion, it's, "Well, that's your job as a parent, you're supposed to make sacrifices." OK, but at a certain point, when those sacrifices are not acknowledged or not believed by our kids, we parents feel taken advantage of. I'm sure our parents felt the same way about us. I will admit I didn't have a clue until well into my 20s; by then my mom had died and it was too late, but from that time until he died a few years ago, my dad and I had a great relationship based on mutual respect, not necessarily what we could give or do for each other. While a lot of this is typical stuff between generations and parents and kids, it's my perception, my reality, that now is the "Age of Entitlement," and when it comes to be our time to be old and in the way, our kids won't be there for us as we've been there for them, as we were there for our parents when they got old. The entitlement is not two-way. This is all a huge issue, way beyond you and me, and I'm sorry to say, I don't see any trend away from it.
Hey Stephen,
Well said, you made a lot of great points. We have a lot in common my friend. I haven't given up hope just yet, but check back with me a year or two from now! I think some of it also falls on us "Parents" We need to step up to the plate too and explore if maybe we added fuel to the fire in one way or another. I know in today's world there are so many other "messages" influences from school, television, advertisements, etc... that go against what we try to teach our kids at home. Could have something to do with it? You are right it is a huge issue, I guess if not in the near future, maybe we should have a follow-up discussion about this in our Golden years?